“Go into work, be aware. Observe difficult people’s behaviors and tactics and get a feel for them. Make a note of your feelings around them. Does their behavior or comment make you feel belittled, offended or angry? What does your emotional quality say about that transaction?“said Dr. Cheng. “Then, take a step back and assess your priorities in having a conversation with this difficult colleague or boss. Figure out what your goal of that conversation is, assess pros and cons, and how you want to feel about yourself afterwards.”
“Boundaries, whether physical or emotional, define the parameters of our sense of safety and integrity. The basis of every relationship is a sense of trust and safety. We need people who can nourish us with love, care and respect but not someone who violates our physical, emotional and mental space because of their own needs.”
“In long-lasting marriage, you can see people have this ability of understanding where the other person is coming from and are willing to find a middle path. It may not feel 100 percent satisfying for either one of them, but it works.”
Dismissing achievements or accomplishments. "People with this habit may be perceived as being humble or having high standards of themselves, which are two virtues that are encouraged to have by our society and culture," psychologist Dr. Pei-Han Cheng tells Romper by email. "However, this habit may actually be a manifestation of their feelings of worthlessness."
The first step to combatting imposter syndrome is to pay attention to your negative thoughts. “When this type of though surfaces, it is important to recognize it as a thought, instead of a fact,” Cheng says. Instead of getting sucked into negative thought quicksand, make a self-affirming statement.
Cheng suggests finding your allies. “It’s important for women to establish their support network with people who can understand and validate their experiences of being manterrupted. Having a good ally means you have someone who can be a good bystander for you and say, ‘Hey, let her finish’, when you get interrupted. Or someone who comes to you to tell you, ‘It really sucks that you are treated that way. Is there anything I can do to help?’”